The relationship we have with our siblings in most instances is the basis for all of our other relationships and how we make our way in the world. When children interact with their siblings they are testing and exploring the limits of social behaviour. It’s one way how children learn what to do when confronted with life’s challenges. Sibling rivalry is defined as competition between siblings for the love, affection and attention of one or both parents or for other recognition or gain. Sibling rivalry can be more noticeable and can also be more problematic when children of the same gender are close in age.

Tips for Parents
Ignoring sibling rivalry should be avoided, instead find positive ways to deal with the situation. Parents should try to treat their children individually and not compare them with each other. If one child is better behaved than another it’s best not to bring it up by comparing them. This action may intensify the bad behaviour if you tell one child that their sibling is better, even if you are only referring to their behaviour.

There will be times when siblings will argue and fight. This is normal behaviour but parents should never tolerate physical or verbal abuse. When a fight ensues, break things off and calm both children down but don’t assign blame. Teach your children how to compromise and negotiate in a positive way. This will help teach them how to deal with conflicts later in life. Avoid taking sides; instead encourage them to work out their differences.

Try to offer your children equal amounts of praise and attention but make sure the attention is individual to them. Don’t expect your children to enjoy the same activities or to be good at the same things. Listen to your children to see what they enjoy and what they are good at. Don’t put more emphasis on one child’s talents over the other’s talent. Make each child feel special by ensuring they excel in different areas. Spending quality time as a family will help to teach your children how to get over their differences. When doing activities as a family let each child choose an activity. Act equally excited while doing each activity. You can make all your children feel special by ensuring the each excel in different areas.